I have recently assumed the role of caregiver for my aging mother. I am having so many confusing feelings. How do I do this and not lose myself in the process?
Dear Caring and Concerned,
Although I have worked with many adult children who have cared for their aging parents, I am going to ask my associate, Hope Nichols, to answer this one, as she has worked with the geriatric population and their families for years. Hope writes:
Try to understand that when you start taking care of your parent, they lose the one thing they’ve always had in relationship to you: authority. That’s something that is not going to be easy for your parent to give up. Expect them, in one way or another, to lash out about that loss. Try your best to have compassion for what they are experiencing. Remember, most of us will be in their shoes some time down the road.
Learn more about Hope on the SR&A website: http://www.shelbyrileymft.com/8.html
Shelby Riley, LMFT is the owner of Shelby Riley, LMFT and Associates, LLC. She is currently the President of the Pennsylvania Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (PAMFT). Remember to check out Shelby’s website www.shelbyrileymft.comfor useful information about therapy for individuals, couples, and families.